April 12, 2016
Choosing a Professional: Should Their Values Matter?
From my point of view, choosing a professional is the most important part of your divorce process because they are the lens through which...
January 30, 2016
Big Change in California Family Law: Have You Ended Your Marriage or Not?
7/25/2016 UPDATE: THE FOLLOWING BLOG NO LONGER REFLECTS THE LAW AS FAMILY CODE SECTION 70 HAS BEEN ADOPTED TO END THE DAVIS DECISION The law...
December 22, 2015
In the Crosshairs: The Legislature is Poised to End Mediation in the State of California
About a decade ago I attended a lunch meeting in Contra Costa County with about 50 other area attorneys. The guest speaker, a mediator-attorney...
October 19, 2015
Radical Love: Throwing ‘Trust’ Under the Bus, Part I
I would like to share a rather tricky concept which I discuss with some of my clients as they struggle with their painful fears around...
September 17, 2015
Chasing Shadows: Searching For ‘The Truth’
I’ve recently been re-reading the seminal book Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, and enjoying the reminder of how it’s often futile to...
June 03, 2015
Transformative Mediation: Clients’ Highest Aspirations
I recently received an email from a European-based association which trains legal professionals from around the world. They are currently offering a class in Brussels...
March 21, 2015
Neutrality: What Does That Actually Mean?
I was sitting down with two potential clients in a one-hour consultation the other day when one of the people said to me, “Explain your...
February 07, 2015
Unmani Starts Writing A Book!
I have practiced mediation and Collaborative lawyering for over a decade now and after much talk with colleagues and a few clients, I have dedicated...
December 19, 2014
One More Key to a Successful Mediation: Self-Reflection
One of the most important moments of people’s divorce process is when they assess their different process choices—courts, cooperative law, Collaborative Practice, mediation, do-it-yourself—and then...
September 03, 2014
Collaborative Practice: Choosing a Process Made For You
Over the years, I have developed ways to keep clients’ costs down by creating systems, information, and processes which enable clients to do as much...