July 14, 2016
Through The Mediator’s Looking Glass: Beyond Clients’ Tears or Anger
(Three minute reading time) I had a day in the office recently which left me wanting to write about an important truth: most of...
October 19, 2015
Radical Love: Throwing ‘Trust’ Under the Bus, Part I
I would like to share a rather tricky concept which I discuss with some of my clients as they struggle with their painful fears around...
September 17, 2015
Chasing Shadows: Searching For ‘The Truth’
I’ve recently been re-reading the seminal book Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, and enjoying the reminder of how it’s often futile to...
December 19, 2014
One More Key to a Successful Mediation: Self-Reflection
One of the most important moments of people’s divorce process is when they assess their different process choices—courts, cooperative law, Collaborative Practice, mediation, do-it-yourself—and then...
March 01, 2014
Just Another Day in Family Court
I exclusively practice mediation and Collaborative Practice and so I am rarely in court. Never being in court makes it easy for me to recollect...
December 10, 2013
Happy New Year: Focusing on the Virtues
During this time of year we are all invited, one way or another, to think about who we are and how we relate to others. ...
October 13, 2013
The Power of Grief: What Can’t Be Denied
Grieving is a deeply personal experience, but one can still recognize some commonalities running through most people’s grieving process. One way of looking at it...
September 17, 2012
Conflict: Part of the Human Experience
We often think of mediation as an environment in which the mediator is a preternaturally peaceful person and the clients are kind to each other...
June 18, 2012
Strategic Negotiating: Is There Room For ‘I’m Sorry?’
It’s commonplace for one of my clients to say to another, “You should be sorry, you should tell me you’re sorry for what’s happening.” And...
December 03, 2010
Happy Holidays: Experiencing the Virtues
It’s winter and our thoughts turn to the various holidays and the turn of the year. Almost everyone enjoys some ritual celebrating the mood of...