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December 10, 2013

Happy New Year: Focusing on the Virtues

During this time of year we are all invited, one way or another, to think about who we are and how we relate to others.  Sitting around a sparkling tree, lighting candles, or watching a ball drop often puts us in the mood to reflect on ourselves, our lives, and the lives of our loved ones.  The questions that arise for us during this time of year are commonplace questions year-round in any mediator’s office. What kind of person do you want to be?  How do you want to treat others?   What is more meaningful to you in the long run: money, stuff, and winning or collaboration, dignity, and kindness?  As we are immersed in the spirit of the winter holiday season, we are offered a closer look at the virtues we all treasure in ourselves and others by the expressions of love, generosity, courage, integrity, and honesty that abound.  In December we get to shout about the virtues from the rooftops and express them with flourish.

It is a good idea to take stock of our lives and our relationships with a view of figuring out not only how we can create a life that we love for ourselves, but also how we can encourage those around us to do so also. One of the underlying notions one must accept to develop a life that you love is that money and things do not make you happy.  They can disappear, they can disappoint, and even with a lot of both, it’s possible to be terribly lonely. If one accepts the notion that money doesn’t make you happy, than the only place to go to make a life you love is the virtues.  They exist, as the good deeds and warmth of the holiday season prove.  And the way you can control your happiness is to have your happiness rest in a life that allows you to express the virtues as much as possible. Bliss can come from anywhere—from being a mediator-attorney, a construction worker, a football player, a parent.  When we figure out what activities give us joy and the opportunity to express the virtues—courage, integrity, hard work, kindness, gratitude, gentleness—then we are given the opportunity to change the world one moment at a time by expressing the virtues during all our activities.

I wish everyone a joyful holiday season seated in a deep connection to the virtues.

She is even-handed, neutral, and unbiased in her counsel.

Unmani chose to practice family law and dedicates herself to resolving disputes with equanimity, respecting the emotional needs and wishes of each party at the table.  She is even-handed, neutral, and unbiased in her counsel. She also provided appropriate referrals to additional professionals. If you choose mediation – (the only sane way) – to complete your divorce from your once beloved, inviting Unmani Saraswati to facilitate is a brilliant choice.

- Mark S.
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